Baby Name Drama

Trigger warning: cancer

My husband is AMAZING, and I love him so much, but we are having some drama over baby’s name.

We’ve been able to agree on a first name, but middle name is the issue. With our first daughter, we named her (middle name) after my maternal grandmother. For this baby, he was going to pick a middle name, probably from his side of the family, which I was fine with. But about 8 weeks ago, my mom was diagnosed with a very aggressive cancer, and statistically, the prognosis is grim.

I desperately want to name this baby after my mom but understand that he should also have a turn with a family name.

I’ve asked him to consider my mom’s middle name as well as his mom’s middle name (or any other family member’s name that he likes) and to give baby two middle names. He’s not open to the idea so far.

I haven’t thrown a fit over it, but I cry every time we discuss it because I just can’t stop myself. My mom is the most important person in the world to me, and I desperately want to honor her in this way. Naming the baby after her would also be a great comfort to ME.

Am I being unreasonable? I don’t mean to be. None of us could have planned for this!