Daughter night time anxiety , I need help 😭

My daughter has been having extreme anxiety at night, she starts to over think at night and continuously want hugs, she would repeatedly want hugs after I just left the room 2 mins ago. I try to make it a safe space for my daughter and she just started with this behavior 3 weeks ago along with her anxiety. My daughter has ADHD but the therapist doesn’t want to confirm this at the moment and blames it on our parenting and environmental life style. I’m very upset to think that the therapist would blame it on our parenting. When I told her that I’m in my second year of clinical mental health counseling. I was honestly offended.

My daughter over all has a really bad anxiety of wanting things instantly and if she doesn’t get it she would cry sometimes these cries would be the loudest cries.

Any advice ?

I am trying my best.

Honestly I feel that my husband has no patience for this and is making it worst but just being angry with her will Im the one trying to be mellow but my husband thinks I’m giving into her behavior