Who else can’t stay long periods of time with family?!

I love them. They’re really all I have. But every time they visit me and my husband, shit hits the fan. Nobody gets along. The energy is horrible. I don’t even know how to talk to them because it’s just so awkward. We all have our own issues and have been through a lot of trauma in the last few years. Im just so sad because I wish I had a happy family and I wish I we could all be happy. I know I should be grateful for what I do have instead of focusing on what I don’t have but it’s not as easy as it sounds. How do you deal with negativity within your family? Does anyone else feel like being away from home all these years has created too much distance between you guys and it feels like your strangers?