Am I a bad girlfriend? *kinda long*

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* I am 27 and he is 31 if that matters* 
My bf and I have been together for almost 5 years. We have had some VERY rocky patches in the past due to things he had done and I gave him several chances to change his behavior (I have caught him several times talking sexually to other girls, catfishing girls on dating sites, etc. I know, I am stupid for even giving him a chance after that but I am a very forgiving person.) He always blames his screw-ups on the fact that I have a low sex drive. 
I havent WANTED sex in a very long time. Probably 4 years or more. We usually have sex about once a week. I have talked to my doctor about it several times and she tells me there's nothing she can do to help me. I have tried getting off birth control (didnt work), taking antidepressants (didnt work), and trying different types of birth control (didnt work). 
I feel bad that I can't satisfy him and his needs, but If I don't feel like having sex, I won't. And lately, he has been basically telling me that I'm a bad gf for not wanting to have sex constantly like he does.
He will mumble things like "what a waste of my time" or "gee thanks for wanting me" ir he will tell me he's "getting on Craigslist to find a hooker". And he is constantly making comments about me having "another bf" (I have never cheated and never would so idk where he is getting this).
I am well aware that I should probably end things because I obviously am not enough for him. But we have a home together, a cat, chickens, and all our other stuff. His son calls me mom, we have full custody of him and I feel like it would be really hard on him if I left. 
I dont really know what I'm trying to get out of telling this story, I know I need to leave, I know I would be happier, im sure he would be happier...i guess I just needed somewhere to vent. 
Thank you if you read this far, I know this post was a little long!

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Your whole first paragraph is a huge Red Flag to me. Actually, forget Red Flag, it is a Forest Fire. He does not respect you and your staying shows him that you do not have much respect for yourself either. He continues to do these things because you are allowing him to. 
I am 95% sure that the only thing wrong with you, when it comes to sex, is your S.O. Once you leave and gain your confidence back, I am sure you will see that drive return. Let's clear up another thing right now, you are MORE than enough. 
Honestly, you are too young to be putting up with this nonsense. The only thing that breaks my heart in all this is that there is a child in the mix here. 
I hope that things work out for you. If you ever want to talk, please feel free to message me.

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As hard as it would be to leave a child you can’t stay for him if you’re miserable and being/have been cheated on. You are young and deserve to be happy yourself. Technically you guys(bc you said we) don’t have full custody. He does, and it’s his responsibility. This is coming from a stepmom of 2. My husband has custody as well. I know how hard it would be. 
You not wanting to have as much sex as him should NEVER be used as an excuse for cheating or potentially cheating. That’s manipulative BS. Trying to place the blame for his actions as a grown man on you. As is saying you have a boyfriend and such. Makes me feel like he is currently doing something sneaky bc people like to deflect guilt on to others.
I hope you realize your worth and make the best decision for YOU. Good luck. 💗

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The child is the least of your worries. Yes 5 years is a significant amount of time but there's no "we" in that situation. He is the one with full custody. 
You aren't compatible sexually. You've caught him trying to cheat on you and he still uses it as a threat that he will. Why would you want to stay with him. Seriously...dump him. And then dump your doctor amd find one that will actually help you.

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I had no sex drive with a partner I was with for a long time. Bought herbal supplements to help etc
Turns out my issue was actually him, but I wouldn’t accept it  After we broke up and I met my now husband, my sex drive went through the roof
But for all those years with my ex, I really believed it was me

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Idk if you’re not having sex with him because he’s a cheater or if he’s cheating due to lack of affection. If you’ve been to the doctor and all that, it sounds like you simply have a naturally low drive. If that’s the case then you two aren’t sexually compatible. As a person who loves sex, I couldn’t be in a relationship with a man with a low drive because I’d be sick of getting rejected and tired of the lack of sex. Rather than cheating your bf should just break up with you and move on.

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I think you're not in the mood for sex because you're in a relationship with a cheating, self-centered, manipulative, asswipe. You have given this guy way too many chances.
There's also sex therapists, they can help you with your lack of a sex drive.

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This reminds me of me when I was 23. Zero sex drive with my ex husband. Why? Because he didn’t respect or appreciate me. He cheated on me, emotionally and physically. I had no self esteem thinking I wasn’t good enough. Feeling crazy by constantly getting gaslighted by him. You don’t have a sex drive because you’re out of love. And usually when they accuse you of cheating, it’s their guilty conscience and it’s them that’s cheating. You can do so much better, there are men out there that aren’t like this. I’m sorry you’re going through this 💔

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Shocking that you don’t feel in the mood around a guy who you can’t trust, insults you, stresses you out, and guilt trips you for not feeling like you want to have sex with his winner self 🙄 
Your doctor can’t help you because she isn’t in the business of prescribing new boyfriends. This guy is good birth control.. find someone that doesn’t make you feel shity all the time.

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I can guarantee the main problem is him. You don’t trust him, and he’s given you many reasons not to.
When you find someone who respects you and makes you happy, it will make a world of difference. Don’t settle.

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You don't sound compatible. One of you needs to get the courage to move on.

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