How to go about asking a Doctor?

I am ashamed to ask this bc I am a grown married woman but I know there are a ton of very supportive people on here so I thought I would try...

So I haven't seen a Dr. since I was probably 15 years old bc my grandpa had government assistance. I have never in my life seen a gynecologist and I've never gone to see a doctor regarding my mental health.

My husband is soon SUPPOSED to have benefits at his job and I am completely and utterly tired of feeling the way I have for years and its only getting worse soo..

I need to see a gynecologist bc I have so many issues... Not being able to conceive which isn't a bad thing rn tbh.. painful and never once enjoyable intercourse and I get crippling pains in what feels like my uterus area from time to time and can't walk right for days. The list goes on, thankfully no infections that I know of.. But number one is the way I feel mentally. I have almost daily thoughts of death/suicide in the past couple months it used to be on occasion but now its gotten very bad... I am unbearable to deal with when I get any bit of stress and I have physically felt sick and in pain bc of my anxiety and dark thoughts, I get headaches and now chest pains which used to just be pressure on my chest, now its just painful. I over think every little aspect in my life and others lives. I feel emotionally crippled and I want it to stop I want to feel at least "normal" and idk how to go about it. My mom and siblings struggle too so I think its hereditary and my mom had a brain aneurysm relating to depression, anxiety, PTSD and she is a user and always has been to "cope."

But here is my question...

Can I go to any Doctor for these issues?? Like do I get a primary doctor and tell them my lady issues and my mental issues?? As an adult you would think I would know but I have never had this opportunity before nor do I have anyone to ask like family or friends. My husband doesn't even know and if he does its not like he'll help. Please don't hate bc I simply just don't know how to go about taking care of myself I guess.. Thanks in advance for any comments!

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