Reporting my abuser (advice from aussies please)

Hey girls,

Long story but I really need help to report my sexual abuser!! And any advice will be helpful.

I live in Australia and am just after some advice from any ladies who have had similar experience as I’m trying to gather as much as I can.

So basically long story short from the age I was 12 until 20 years old I would wake up in the middle of the night to my step father molesting me. (Touching my inappropriate areas). That’s basically as far as it went as I was aware of. He knew I was a deep sleeper and took advantage of that.

He physically abused me twice where he started to bash me and I fought back and my mum would try her hardest to rip us apart.

When I hit puberty was the age I feel he began to have an obsession with me. But I obviously didn’t notice it until this age. Because back then he just made it out like it was out of care because my dad wasn’t around.

He would control what I wore, who I was friends with, I wasn’t allowed to communicate with any guys and whenever I got caught I got punished. He once even went to the extent of putting a spyware on my laptop which could see everything on my screen.

It was a secret I planned to take with me to my grave to be honest. I had multiple reasons why I never spoke out. Firstly he is a narcissistic manipulator. He would cause me and my mum to argue and my mum would always assume I just wanted them divorced. She also threatened me to live with my dad multiple times I acted up. And I hate my dad so I didn’t know how she would react, and whether she would believe me

Or not so I chose to keep it to myself. I didn’t tell a soul.

Until last year they got divorced, a few months after there were allegations that he was having a relationship with his half sister. (Allegations which became true, we have him confessing to it also on call recorder). That’s roughly the same time I told my mum about my abuse.

At first I chose not to report him to police because I was so lost and confused and just assumed they wouldn’t do something that happened 10 year ago especially with no proof.

So I managed to get on a recording him saying that he apologised to me and he knows his scum of the earth etc. all I asked was that he seeks therapy.

Instead I got the opposite. He has become very nasty and abusive to not only my mum but me too. He also started to threaten me, threaten my safety and also make it clear that If I do report him his going to tell the police shit about me.

(I did a petty fraud) a couple of years back which is when I pretty much was in a phase due to him. Never was home always out on drugs. So now I have to go to police does anyone know any sort of outcome this could potentially get?

I know he won’t go to jail or anything like that. But if he could at least get charged and be put on a sex affenders list for others safety I will be at peace. I’m also filing for an AVO against him.

Please wish me luck that it goes well. I will be seeing a therapist first and then reporting him to police. Also to anyone else who has been abused. Sexually, physically or emotionally. Speak up! Believe me it doesnt go away keeping it inside all your life it only makes things worse. It’s not and never has been your fault. Too many people are victim to this and it kills me. I wish I could help others.

Thank you to anyone who does read xx