Sex guilt?

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Anyone else feel guilty for not having sex with your husband/SO much anymore? I’m 30 weeks and we haven’t had sex in a couple weeks and I just don’t feel up for it at all... he is such a good sport about it and doesn’t complain at all and totally understands, but I can’t help but feel bad! I just don’t feel up for anything sexual... like I don’t have a horny bone in my body right now lol

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Yes definitely guilty! I feel bad bc we’ve had sex maybe 5 times this pregnancy and I feel guilty but it’s just so uncomfortable. My husband has thankfully been great about it but he still asks to get some 🤣 he keeps telling me that he can’t wait for our baby to get here and us be cleared for sex bc he is READY 😂

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Not so much guilty about not having sex because we try to like once a week at least. But I feel guilty that I just can't seem to enjoy it or get into it when we do. I want to but then my belly is all tight or gets in the way or I have acid reflux when he's trying to kiss me so I can't. Or baby starts moving. I just can't get into it any more. I want to but usually I can't cum unless I just do it myself these days. So I feel super guilty about that. Then I feel guilty cuz once baby is here it'll be a lil bit before we can try again and it'll be uncomfortable then too. Ugh. I just miss normal sex.

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100% with you! We haven’t had sex at all since baby girl was conceived. I’ve wanted to a few times but we had a miss carriage last fall and I’ve been so afraid. I know it can’t hurt little one but it still scares me. But I feel so guilty and my husband has been so wonderful though.

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My husband is so amazing long story short we were pregnant with triplets last year im high risk so we couldn't have sex at all during that pregnancy. All my drs missed my pre-eclampsia symptoms so shit hit the fan had a forced c-section at 23+6 only one of our sons survived. Hayden is doing very well but has a trach and gtube. The Dr's think he'll be trach free by his 3rd bday though. Cut to us being told I'd never get pregnant again naturally and grieving the loss of our sons, while our survivor spent 8months in nicu's having surgery after surgery. We had sex one time right after to help comfort each other late one night. Then we had sex again in January after we were home with our son and settled. Guess who thought they had the flu since according to the Dr's it wasn't supposed to be possible for another baby on our own. Lol and even though its just one baby this time still considered high risk so no sex again for this pregnancy so my husband is going on 2years and only 2/3 times. He is my rock and my foundation. A wonderful provider and awesome father. Because our son needs special care he agreed to let me be a stay at home mom for our son until he is healthy enough and old enough to start school!!!

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We’ve had sex pry once a week average since I found out! Or more?!  I’m not always in the mood but he has a way of putting me in the mood😈 just knowing he still wants me with a big ol bump in the way is just sweet and so I aways give in! I’m not just horribly uncomfortable in bed tho either,we have a very soft mattress so it’s very giving! His favorite lately since I’m getting big is to pull me to the edge of the bed and put my legs on his shoulders! Works for both of us! But yes I can’t wait to be back to normal!!!! And do our usual stuff 😊

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So glad I'm not the only one!! I love this group 😃

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Omg I’ve literally cried about this multiple times. I had a lot of bleeding during/after sex once at 27w, and even though I was checked out and everything was fine, since then we decided we wouldn’t have sex anymore until after the baby is here (31w now). 
My husband has been a complete angel about it and never even brings it up. He’ll just be extra cuddly with me in bed and that’s as far as anything goes now. I just get so sad and guilty feeling that a part of our relationship feels like it’s missing right now. And I worry that things will never be the same again because we’ll have a baby in the house, and my body will never be the same. 😩

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I'm SO HAPPY I'm not the only one!

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I feel ya girl and yes I feel so guilty! I’ll try and make myself try to just for him but then it’s so painful and just yuck! I can’t do it :( 
I hope this goes away soon!

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Yes!!!!!!! All the yes. I am far from feeling into or interested in sex 😬.

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