Am I being hurt for no reason??

I live in my sisters garage, unfortunate job losses etc... another story. We turned it into a mini house/ room type thing, anyway. I am a stay at home mom which I absolutely love and am blessed to do and I adore my kids, but I have three under three and I am with them 24/7 I am sleep deprived, over weight, so not happy with my body, I just had a baby, I been trying to workout but I’m not motivated with our living situation no windows etc... I’m exclusively breastfeeding. My husband works out of town and I see him for two and a half days a week. He tells me yesterday we got invited to a wedding today, so me, excited to get out of the house, dress up, wear heels..I go shopping and get a couple things. I wake up today and he says we aren’t going. Uh ok, he says but I’ll take you out on a date. Ok, I get over the wedding. Id love to go on a date! He is wishy washy all day about if we are going or not. The plan was because his friends were having a bowling tournament to go bowling, he kept talking about how I havnt been in years, gets me all excited to go and we were gonna get food and go to a car show after. After changing his mind for the zillionth time he feels bad for telling his friend he isn’t coming so I tell him I can be ready in thirty min. We decide to go and he starts getting ready, I ask my mom to watch the kids, she says yes. I start to get ready super excited but trying to hide it because we never get alone time. Well my daughter comes in and says she want to go, I tell her no she is gonna stay with grama this is mommy and daddy time she starts whining and so my husband says yes!.... uh ok so that means I get to now spend our date chasing my kids around a bowling alley making sure they stay off the dirty floor and don’t lick seats etc... so I stop getting ready because I now have to get the kids ready too. I just throw something on get the kids ready. He tells my daughter I’m mad because he let them come so now I look like shit and that he will take me out tmw?? So basically all my emotions went from excitement to dreading having to chase my children around and avoid them getting this stupid virus. The girls fall asleep on the way, it’s a long drive. He says so since their asleep your gonna just sit in the car with them while I bowl by myself? and I said I guess because if I wake them up they are gonna be crabby and screaming so he agrees. We get there and I end up sitting in the car for three hours. my three yr old wakes up and he takes her in and tries telling me we can come in and my two year old can sleep on the seats! Because he knows I’m pissed. Again why am I gonna wake her up so she is grumpy and so I can just spend my time running around after my kids. I tell him no I’ll just stay in the car he comes back out to tell me it’s gonna be another hour or so and his friends can give him a ride back. I said ok I should’ve just stayed home instead of wasting my time sitting in a car with my kids!!! Why did I even come? He thinks he didn’t anything wrong at all. He doesn’t understand why I’m hurt. Do I have a reason to be hurt or am I over reacting??