Is he coaching the kids?

Question

So my four-year-old broke my heart today after a full day with her and my little one and 2 1/2 years old from 6 AM it was about 6:30 PM we were sitting on the couch watching cartoons her dad had just walked in the room she said mommy move out of here this is daddy spot I don’t love you… I asked her why she said I just don’t love you!
I feel like crying her father and I have been together five years we were supposed to be getting married then his business took off and he changed his mind about marriage saying that he now doesn’t believe in it and that he will never marry anybody our relationship has changed completely we live in the same house but don’t talk to each other we sleep in separate rooms. If I reprimand the kids they run to him and he turns on at me taking their side holding them and soothing them completely undermining what I do he spends about two hours a day with them at best I’m doing everything I gave up my career for our family and now I just feel defeated
He wants to get a full-time nanny and he’s told me to go get a job.
everything is under his name I’m terrified that he’s going to kick me out and keep the girls I feel like my body is slowly breaking down because of all the stress I don’t know what to do The girls are my entire life I try to do everything possible to make their days happy and healthy . He is always taking the credit for the good and blaming me for anything else that goes wrong they love him though which I am glad for but I hope his manipulation won’t be so evil to the point that he will poison their brains against their own mom￼￼￼￼￼￼￼

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There’s a lot to unpack here. It sounds like co-parenting in the same house is not working for you. Start working on the steps that will get you your own place. Also, you’re not together (and if he broke off your engagement because his “business is good now”, you shouldn’t be with him) but you’re still relying on him financially for everything? That’s not going to work in the long run. You probably do need to get a job, but not because he said so. He can pay for a nanny/daycare so you can start independently managing your finances and your life. 
Really, you should probably get a lawyer and work out the details. Then you can better set up a plan for your kids. I don’t know if he’s coaching your kids or not, but they’re probably picking up on your stress and uncertainty.

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He’s an ass, start documenting the shit he’s doing. Do what you need to do to start gaining independence and getting away.

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Sis... wake up. You have become weak and he knows it.. he’s an asshole and disrespectful!!! He does NOT DESERVE you. Please do the following: 
- find a job, save money in a separate account
- start exercising and eating healthy - this will be a game changer, it’ll increase confidence and clarity. It will connect you with your soul and make you feel your power again!!! 
- Don’t be desperate for him. He doesn’t want this relationship and he doesn’t respect you ... so accept the truth and start building a better life WITHOUT him and move out and get on with your life and meet someone better.. you CAN get better,
None of this is possible without #2

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Girl.. i am so sorry! Let him hire and nanny and get some money saved up for yourself. Get out of there! You deserve so much more than the bs hes putting you through

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I told my almost 3 year old I love him today and he told me “I don’t love you,” in response. 30 minutes later, he gives me a hug and tells me he loves me. 🙄 He sometimes does the same thing to my husband. While I definitely agree it sounds like coparenting is going well, I wouldn’t jump to the idea he’s coaching them to say they don’t love you.

Is he coaching the kids?

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