Relationships

Hey y’all I have a question

Am I over exaggerating?

..... sooo I currently live with my fiancé and his mother and it has been challenging. He allows her to over talk me all the time and she belittles my position with him multiple times and he says it’s all a joke and I’m being too sensitive. Here’s some examples.

Ex. I was speaking with his mom about how I think a man should cater to his wife and a wife to her husband should do the same that I think it goes both ways. Like if I’m working and he is as well then we both should share responsibilities and if he is the only one working then I’ll take care of the home and future children. So I was saying I should teach him stuff around the house so he can help us since we are all living together currently and not working. ( so me and her are doing all of the cooking and cleaning while he does nothing) She said no he’s her little king. I asked her what will he do when it’s just me and him and we are no longer living together and she told me she will always be there. I said I know but not physically living with us and she insisted she will always be there. I told her (because we both are religious) that one day when we are married even biblically he would have to leave his mother and father and cling onto his wife and she said you don’t really have to follow that part.

- he told me she was just trying to get under my skin and it was just a joke that I was too sensitive.

Ex.2 his mother was telling me a story about how Congolese men sometimes will have a wife in Europe and another back in Congo. She began telling me all the messed up things that happen with men in Congo. One of her examples was how traditionally (but it still happens now in some provinces) the parents pick your wife and if you come home married with someone they don’t like they will marry another girl that they like to you without you being there and kick the other girl out. Then she proceeded to tell me that I’m lucky that we don’t live in those times. When I asked her if she would do that to me she said yes.

- he told me that in Congo humor is different and I’m being too sensitive that she was just joking.

She was smiling and laughing when she said both of these examples so idk but she did tell me once before that she says what she wants in a joking way to not hurt peoples feelings so now idk what to believe.

Oh by the way I’m African American and they are Congolese. Please help me. They have told me now that they don’t know how to joke with me anymore without me getting offended and I don’t want them to feel that way but the way they joke feels disrespectful to me. Am I tripping?