Moving out

My boyfriend refuses to look for an apartment with me because “we can’t afford it”. I lived in a $1400 apartment with my ex for 6 months before he cheated on me, and both of our jobs combined (me working part time) supported us and everything we needed. I keep trying to persuade him by saying “I’ve been through it. It’s really not as hard as you think.” He’s in the military and makes more than enough to cover his half of everything if we split it. He doesn’t want to have to worry about money, but that’s literally never going to happen. I dont understand the obsession with “having more than enough.” I’m a simple person, and I don’t care about extra spending money. If he wants to put money away for anything, he’s free to do so. I think he’s more worried about my end because I’m a “civy” and if I lost my job, he would be the one supporting us until I can find a new one. Since his job is permanent until his contract is up, he never has to worry. I wish he would step out of his military brain and realize everyone around us our age are doing it. We’re both 21. It’s not hard for me to find a full time job in the area where we want to move. I can’t do it by myself, and I’m tired of living at home with my parents.

Patience is not my strong suit 🤥