Is it me or him?

The other week my bf and I got into an argument about me wanting to see his phone I feel like he should’ve appreciated the fact that I went and told him what was bothering me and the reasons why I don’t trust him because our relationship was rocky in the past, I’m having his kid and we live together I just want to make things right well that didn’t end well he just got super defensive and said no he will never let me see his phone and that I should trust him. I then I asked him if he even gets paid from work cus I remember he told me he didn’t and he proceeds to tell me that’s none of my business just know I’ll provide for my kid. I honestly don’t even feel like this is a relationship at all, I’m having this mans kid who I can’t ask anything, who I can’t confront when I feel bad or want to tell him something. I can’t even know the basic stuff like if he gets paid from work and God forbid I ask how much ... is this something I’m over reacting about? Someone who I’m having a kid with. He uses the excuse of we are not married and that’s why married ppl talk about. I’m just like I’m about to have your kid.... like how does that not open up your eyes.