Ranting about MIL post!

Long story short I don’t get on very well with my soon to be MIL. Yes I am civil, I’ve never been horrible to her or said anything out of line. She however isn’t very nice to me or my OH.

All my OH’s life she’s not been great. His dad left when he was young and she blames him for it. When she found out she was pregnant with him she was on drugs. Dropped him off at 5 days old to his grandparents so she could go off to Amsterdam for what was supposed to be a couple of days but ended up being a week or so without telling the grandparents. For the first 2 years of his life his grandparents bought him up, which I can’t thank them enough for as he has turned out to be a fantastic person and partner thanks to them!

She is a narcissist. Very passive aggressive, her emotions are always up and down. She goes days without speaking to us even when we try and then all of a sudden acts like nothing has happened. She lies an awful lot, very lazy. Me and my OH and his ‘step’ dad do pretty much everything around the house for her while she comes in and sleeps after only working 4 hours during the day while the rest of us do 8/9 hour days.

Me and my OH have found our first home and put an offer in which has been accepted thank god! We hope to be out by end of Oct, beginning of Nov. We obviously can’t wait to get out as being as his isn’t very nice for either of us but mainly him. We’ve had super bad luck this year so didn’t wanna tell to many people incase it all falls through. We told his parents and mine and said to not tell anyone yet as there’s still a chance we could lose it and didn’t wanna jinx it. Also it’s our thing to tell people ourselves! His mum promised she wouldn’t tell anyone (she’s told people personal things about me and my OH that she shouldn’t of told before hence why we’re hot on it). Today my OH got a text from his uncle about the home. So therefore she has said something... we’re both not very happy. It’s our thing to get excited about to tell who we wanted. She always does this.

We’ve had 4 MC this year already which has been so heart breaking. We told our parents and his mum made the whole thing about her. She cried loads and said she got ‘into a dark place’ for about a week or so after. Almost taking the lime light from us. Completely forgetting how me and my OH feel about the whole thing. Especially me constantly being in and out of hospital having blood tests after blood tests. My mental health has been awful since the first one!

Anyway do I confront her later about it all? About how she lies and makes false promises and does something after saying she wont. How she constantly takes the lime light from us and makes OUR things her thing. She is really doing my head in now and I don’t know if I can keep my mouth shut for much longer!