My husband is finally getting adopted! ❤️

Long story short: my husband’s biological family isn’t great. They were emotionally and physically abusive during his childhood and emotionally manipulative during our relationship. We’ve spent the last 6 years trying to plead his family and no matter what we do it a not good enough. For a long time I struggled with that because my husband was my first boyfriend and I didn’t understand why they hated me so much.

After a lot of drama these last 6 years including letting his 17 year old brother live with us less than a year after we had our own house & as soon as he went off to college we let his 21 year old uncle & his partner move in. Then within 3 months we had to call the cops on them to get them to leave our home because... things were getting nasty to say the least. They were using our home as a place to get drunk and high. They didn’t think I was cool anymore when I called them out on smoking in my house & beating their dog.

Flashforward to May of 2020 and I find out I’m pregnant. One of his uncle’s responded with “you’re dead to me. Don’t contact me again.”

His mother and grandmother have spoken to us hardly at all this whole pregnancy. Every conversation he did have with them was via Facebook and ended up being very awkward. After finding out it was a boy (when they already have a boy great/grandson) they responded, “well I’m glad you got what you wanted”. We wanted a healthy baby, regardless of sex. We never said we wanted a boy.

The response from his uncle got told to my husband’s best friend & he told his parents. His best friend’s mom responded with “maybe it’s time to adopt Chris”. Apparently his best friend’s parents had been considering this on and off since they were both in middle school. Clearly it would’ve proven to be difficult with my husband’s mother involved which is why they never did it.

But they started looking into it and from May until September we were met with wall after wall after wall due to covid and due to adult adoptions being... rare.

But we signed the petition to the court two weeks ago and we got a court date this morning. Last night, not even knowing this yet, my husband made the announcement on Facebook that he was being adopted. I was very surprised but overjoyed to find out this morning we finally got a court date. ❤️❤️

Picture attached is the blanket that my soon to be mother in law is making for our baby boy!

Edit: okay so there’s some confusion on how adult adoption works. My future in laws (hubby’s best friend’s parents) asked him if he wanted to be adopted legally rather than just be referred to as a second son as he’s been for a while now (12? Years ish). Why? Because they always wanted a second child and for various reasons it just didn’t happen. And because they know that his biological family isn’t great and want him to feel accepted somewhere and not like he’s a burden.

He said yes because it’s the best thing for him and for us. They’ve been there for him since he was 12/13 and he’s always been like a son to them and a brother to their son but now it’s not “like” anymore. He will be their son and he will be brothers with his best friend. And also in case a meteor kills us and my parents (who we are also very close to) they would get our son and not his biological mother who has stated “I’m not going to see the baby anyway so why jump for joy?” We never, ever told her that. And even once the adoption is finalized that will not be the case if she ever decides to put effort towards building a relationship with us again. He simply said we can’t have our son be raised around people who hate his mother. We got blocked 🤷🏻‍♀️ truth hurts 😂

Even the members of his family that were “good” to him when he was growing up have dropped him like a hot potato when he met me. The only ONLY exception to this is his little brother who is also more or less rejected from the family for different reasons including: their mixed race, their success in college, gender fluidity, not understanding autism, and their relationship with us.

As far as how it works and how the process got started, it was rather difficult during a pandemic. In Indiana it’s just a matter of consent, really, and then waiting on the court (our date is 10/21). The reason it was difficult was finding a lawyer who would do it when we didnt know how to find one. Once we found one it was a quick process. Other states are stricter on adult adoption. Ours is not.

Also to those wondering he’s 24, I’m 26. We’ve been together 6 years and married 3.5.