Worried about “replacing” my first born?

Question

I love my 4yo son more than anything in the world. He’s the reason I get up every morning with a smile and I’d do anything for him. I’m so worried, however, that when my daughter is born I’m going to love her more because I’ve always wanted a girl and new babies are just the cutest!  
Or maybe somehow I won’t connect with this baby as much as I love my son? Ugh I just have so many mixed emotions. I prayed so hard for this baby (IVF baby after 3 years of infertility), but I’m worried about balancing my love between two different children. It would absolutely break my heart if my son somehow felt replaced by the new baby. How does everyone deal with this?

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That’s normal when you’re used to only having one bc the love doesn’t compare.  
But trust me you will love them both EQUALLY AND JUST AS MUCH boy or girl it doesn’t matter.

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I worry about this too. My daughter is 2 and my second daughter will be here in a few weeks. Im nervous about the first month or two how the transition to our new life will be, but I dont fear about loving either one of them more. My biggest worry is that my 2 year old will feel jelous or replaced. My husband and I are going to do everything to make sure she feels included and still loved just as much!

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You will love both children the same way. There is not love difference between your kids. My kids are 13 months apart and they are the best brother and sister ever. Good luck and don’t worry. My daughter melts my heart but my son is my strength. I couldn’t ask for a better gift than taht

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All totally normal concerns! I think most second time moms go through this. But the thing with love, is that it GROWS! There isn’t a certain amount you’re capable of. It’s infinite! The love you have for daughter will be just as strong as your love for your son but it will be in a different way. Just like you love your mom and your dad (typically speaking). They are both your parents, but your relationship is different. It’s the same with your babies ✨ you’ve got this mama. 
Plus, seeing your son love your daughter will make your heart literally melt out of your chest!!

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Those feelings are totally normal and the exact feelings I had when I was pregnant with my son.  I thought bc I loved my daughter so much and bc she is a girl that I’d be more connected to her, but once my son was here, I didn’t feel that at all.  
Not gonna lie my daughter (15 months at the time) was super jealous when my son was born.  She’s throw tantrums especially if my husband picked him up or fed him.  She got over it within a month or 2. We made sure to still do the same things with her that we always did.  I’d still cuddle with her every morning in my bed after we woke up. She still had daddy time because my husband still is the one who puts her to bed.

Worried about “replacing” my first born?

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