Spina bifida

At my twenty week scan they noticed the baby had a funny shaped head and the banana shaped cerebellum they couldn't find anything wrong with the spine. Had a specialist scan and he agreed with the shape of the head and cerebellum too but said he could only possibly see a problem with the spine. He said he can usually tell one way or the other but with my baby he can't and I'm having an mri. He did say that her head is small so she will most likely be seriously affected by the spina bifida 😭

Can they tell the severity of it from an mri? I am gutted, I love her already. Can feel her kicks. Its not fair to bring her into the world just because I love her if she's going to have a horrible life..

Has anyone been through the same?