Domestic Violence Story

I would like to share my story to hopefully shed light to some women who might be going through the same thing.

My baby fathers, and I planned a pregnancy together. He was the best I can say up until I actually became pregnant. It was the biggest blessing of my life. When I told him the news, when I was 6 weeks, he was extremely negative about it. He told me anything can happen, that I would need a better test. Went and got a blood test and it was positive as well. After that he would tell me that it’s still early that I could miscarry.

Fast forward a few weeks while I was around 11 weeks pregnant, we would constantly fight about any little thing. He would tell me that I’m “overreacting” for feeling emotional about him not expressing any joy for our pregnancy. ( he has a child from a previous relationship ) so he never expressed the same type of excitement.

Eventually he broke up with me through text, wished that I had a miscarriage, and would constantly threaten me about the well-being of my baby. So I left to live with family because him and I were sharing a place together around 13 weeks pregnant.

Weeks passed by and he messaged me that he would like to talk about giving full custody of our child to me. So at first I didn’t want to see him at all, but he kept insisting, so I decided to pass by his place so we can have a grown conversation. What a mistake that was.

I was about 18 weeks, when someone who at one point I loved, hurt me and my daughter physically. He beat me with a belt and choked me. Left marks along my body, and I’m grateful till this day that I was able to escape that nightmare. He messaged me after I escaped that he would believe in god if I lose the baby. I immediately took myself to the hospital and at the hospital I asked them to notify the police, that I was physically assaulted. I worried about my daughter the whole time being at the hospital and I’m grateful that she’s okay.

The following day he got arrested for a second degree felony of aggravated battery of a pregnant women with deadly weapon. He got on bond and we had a no contact order. He’s still facing those charges right now while I cooperate with the state attorneys office.

Today I’m currently 25 weeks with my daughter, still trying to process what happened to us. About a week ago he violated his no contact order and messaged me all sorts of things, how I ruined his career and his life. That I’m the worst person, that I don’t deserve a baby and that he’s going to try to take me down with me. I contacted the police for violating his no contact, and he’s not in jail awaiting his trial.

His family views me as the bad person or the person who “ruined” his life. I know it’s not true, at the end of the day I did was best for me child and I.

Moral of the story, please do not stay in a toxic relationship. Some people will never change, and I’m one of the fortunate ones that was able to leave that situation alive. We are all worth way more than what some people treat us. But something else, you’ll never die from love and love shouldn’t hurt.

If there’s any women who is going through a bad situation you can always message me.