Is it Normal for my future MIL to say to this?

FTM here and not sure if this is okay but I feel uncomfortable about my MIL’s comments... She makes some comments that she’s supposedly joking about but continuously says they all the time.

Like, here is the things she “jokes” about:

- how my mom would be jealous of her

- it’s not as special for my parents bc they already have grand babies and they, my boyfriend’s parents don’t.

(I have 3 older brothers, who have children and I’m the only girl (24) and I’m having my first baby. My parents said it’s still special no matter the number the baby is)

- who the baby will love more, her or myself

- that we aren’t excited as much as she is

(I’ve had a previous miscarriage so buying things for the baby has been hard since I have bad anxiety)

- how we don’t pass the family name bc (and she raised her voice a bit) I DON’T LIKE IT

- my boyfriend and I’s baby being sad bc we aren’t going to get married before the due date

- how she doesn’t keep the baby items in her room bc she doesn’t want me to get jealous. (We are renovating a room and had to move the baby clothing, blankets, and more to our bedroom)

- where my baby bump went.. (I’m only 18 weeks and since I’m a FTM, I’m not showing that much. Usually my belly gets bigger towards the night but is smaller in the morning)

When I mention this to my boyfriend, he just says it’s because this is their first grand baby.. but does that excuse her comments?

- Edit #1: I forgot to mention a lot more things shes “jokes” about. I appreciate everyone’s answers however it’s unfortunate because it does not seem like she is willing to back down. Due to my anxiety, I ended up buying a few pieces of clothing (unisex since we do not know the gender) and she took it upon herself to say,”Well since you bought something for the baby, I’ll see as that’s my approval to start buying things too.” It made me upset as she’s just been buying and buying. I feel bad because my parents are aware of my anxiety so they have been patiently waiting for my approval to buy baby items. However with my future MIL, just seems like she is doing whatever she wants without considering my feelings.