He doesn’t want more kids...

I had my 2nd baby with my husband last week. We’ve now got 2 beautiful daughters and are absolutely blessed. We had always talked about having more than two (3 or 4, we weren’t decided) kids as it was something we had both wanted.

He said to me the other day he doesn’t think he’ll want another and to go through this again and it’s made me really sad. Our daughter is 2.5 and we have a newborn. I only had them so close together because the plan was always to have a 3rd so we were going to leave 2.5 years between each of them so they were fairly close in age.

My husband says because i was so sick in both pregnancies but so much worse this time (HG) and threatened to be hospitalised he doesn’t think he’d want to see me go through it again. Also because I was so tired but I think he forgets I still got on with everything. I was working full time and looking after our toddler and pets and the house without faltering. Apart from sickness in the first 16 weeks and generally being tired all the way through I had a relatively easy pregnancy compared to some of my friends who have had complications, yet my husband says I’m not very good at being pregnant (which I find really hurtful).

With our 1st I laboured naturally but ended up needing an emergency c section. This time round I laboured naturally again, it was nearly 24 hours for me as as soon as I’m in the early/latent phase I get strong and painful contractions. The pushing phase was hard with my 2nd and I said I couldn’t do it but I think I was expecting to need some sort of intervention due to last time. I felt really proud that I managed to deliver my daughter naturally with no intervention (apart from an episiotomy). The only but my husband has focused on is that I said I couldn’t do it and struggled. He’s now using all these things to say he doesn’t think he’ll ever want to do it again and have another baby. He has said we’ll talk about it again when baby gets to 2 but he’s been so negative that I’m dreading getting to that point and him saying no as I know I won’t change my mind. I said throughout this pregnancy that I wouldn’t want this baby to be my last and I still feel the same but I don’t know how to make that clear to my husband without making it seem like I’m not listening to his feelings.

Anyone ever been through similar and can give me some advice please?