Birth?

Question

So this will be my second birth. My first was natural. No epidural or anything. I am so embarrassed bc I screamed when giving birth last time and I know the whole floor heard me (there was only 1 other girl there giving birth tho) anyways. Since then my boyfriend has talked ab how I screamed like making fun of it. I wasn’t self conscious about it until now bc I’m planning on natural this time too and now I feel so embarrassed to scream or even get loud. Do you think the nurses and doctors feel annoyed that I screamed? I don’t know now I’m self conscious and I care what people think. I’m scared to even get loud now during birth and now I’m afraid of the whole experience again.... any tips or ideas?

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You are not the 1st nor will be you be the last woman to give birth without pain relief. Screaming and making loud noises is a natural part of the process, you couldn’t control it even if you wanted to and your bf is an asshat for making you feel embarrassed about it

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I would tell him if he keeps trying to make you feel bad about screaming that you will find someone else to be your support person because he is clearly not up to the task.

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If screaming is the worst thing you did you have nothing to worry about. 
Tell your boyfriend that he should push a child out and see if he screams 😂

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Please don’t feel bad about screaming during birth. Lots of people do it and honestly you were in pain and go you for doing the process naturally! 
Your boyfriend should not make you feel bad about it. That’s actually really mean. And I would definitely tell him off for that.

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Omg no! I just had my birthing class and the NP was saying that anxiety about screaming or pooping will just make your labor harder. They’ve seen it all, literally and figuratively. You do what you gotta do to get that baby out. That’s the only thing you should be focusing on. I swear when I’m in pain, so even with the epidural, my L&D team is in for a treat.

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People scream when in pain. I just had my baby and I had an epidural that fell out 24 hours into labor, I didn’t realize it and thought that the pain was normal (it was a natural normal but not normal with an epidural) I was in a lot of pain as I was on pitocin and I was experiencing a lot of strong contractions. However I was only 6cm and it ended in a C-section. But just laboring like that for 6 hours was hard I can’t imagine going all the way to 10 and pushing. 
Tell your boyfriend that making fun of you isn’t fair. He doesn’t have to go through labor and deliver the baby so he doesn’t get a say in the noises that go along with it. Lots of birthing women scream while  giving birth! While it may be a bit of a waste of energy, if it’s how you cope and get through then that’s what works! I was doing a lot of moaning through mine and even during my C-section when the pressure was super heavy lots of loud moaning and all my husband did was ask if I was feeling pain (since I shouldn’t be as I was numb) and told me it was okay, if that’s what I needed to do then go for it he didn’t make fun of me. Your boyfriend needs to grow up some.

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