“Just the Stepmom”

So today my husband and I got a pretty heated argument. Back story; we are a blended family. 5 kids total. He came into our marriage with a girl and a boy and I had my girl. There moms are so irate all the time...like it’s BEEN an issue since we got married...was never an issue prior to of course. Anywhooooo...the moms are ALWAYS using the kids as pawns ♟. Like if they get mad because my husband doesn’t respond “quick enough” or if I’m the one ding pick ups and drop offs...they get pissed and refuse to drop the kids off smdh...I’ve literally tried to remove myself (to eliminate issues so we can just get the kids) but they are taking it too far so my husband said they are going to have to deal with it because I’m his Wife...PERIOD. (Fine by me 💁🏽‍♀️ I wanted to take away some of his stress, but if it he’s cool then so am I) now, both moms will go weeks without letting us get the kids and even on holidays and don’t respond until weeks later. So my advice was “TAKE THEY ASS TO COURT, you’re already on child support and still can’t even see the kids” he gets mad at me because I said that and said that I think he’s being “too much lenient when it comes to the kids”...then he said “you’re just the step-mom, you don’t know what you’re talking about” when I tell you that hurt my damn feelings...like are you fucking kidding me. I just want to cry tbh. I want to be done...after all the shit I’ve endured, take care of them babies, feed them, bathe them, love them unconditionally...now when I say my soothing you may not agree with “I’m just the step mom” ...I’m fucking over it. I honestly always said that I didn’t want to be married or date anyone that has kids (because of this drama, but here I am because I love them and him, I’ll always love the babies) and I know that may be weird to say when I have a daughter from a previous relationship, but her biological father is not in the picture and literally hasn’t been since he helped me make her. I needed to vent, but I also don’t know what to do. I’m tired of talking to him and am disgusted by what he said...sorry for the typos I’m pretty pissed and don’t feel like proof reading...kind regards, “just the stepmom”

UPDATE;

So to everyone I thank and appreciate you opinions and advice. I truly do!

To the mean people here’s my response:

I made the post love and it wasn’t what he said..it’s the way he said it that was belittling to my relationship with them. When I said “I do” to my husband I said it to them as well. I would never seek to take their mothers place. It hurt my heart because of how much I do care, and it felt like a slap in the face...like a man saying to you “your just a woman”, or in this pandemic saying to a nurse “you’re just a nurse, RA etc” You’re risking your life, your taking a chance all for someone you care about (patients)...it’s degrading to say that someone who came into this with love, care and open arms and I’ve gone through a lot more to just say “I’m just a step mom!” I am more than just a step mom. You may disagree, but you don’t know what my babies have gone through with their biological mothers...you don’t know the environment they live in. My arms are a safe haven and my heart will always be there’s. Even if my husband and I were to separate. I even love their mothers because that is the type of person I am. I have to care about them because I care for their children. (No I’m not saying go crazy with it) but if I care about those children then it shouldn’t be any other way. To say “I need to stay in my lane” I AM IN MY LANE AS HIS WIFE, PARTNER, FRIEND, LOVER ETC. I AM HIS HELPMATE. It just hurt because I know I’m my position I would never undermine or belittle his position in my daughters life. EVER.