Husband wants to bring his mom to our apartment

Hello ladies!

I’ve been married to a wonderful man for almost 4 years. We’re from different countries (I’m from Europe, he’s from north Africa), but we both live in Europe (not in my country though). Our families don’t live in the same country as us (they live in our home countries).

We have a 15-month old kid, and we’re expecting another one. I’m in my last week of pregnancy, the baby could arrive any day now!

Last month my dear Mother passed away, and it hurts me deeply that the last time I had seen her was in summer of 2018. I couldn’t even visit her this year, due to this stupid Covid pandemic, and of course I couldn’t even come to her funeral. :(

And now a bit about my husband’s situation: last month, he found out that his mom has a breast cancer. Luckily it’s still in the early phase, so it doesn’t seem too bad. She’s supposed to start her chemotherapy treatment soon, of course in her country. However, my problems arise here - he suddenly has the idea to invite her here to our VERY SMALL apartment (we have only one room, which we share with our 15-month old, and soon with a newborn as well)! He would like her to do the treatment AND the operation here! First of all, being from outside the European Union, she doesn’t even have the RIGHT to access a public health system. And second thing - where the hell does he think she would stay during all the months of treatment (IF by some miracle she gets the right to a public health system - which I highly doubt she will)?! Of course, he NEVER thinks in advance, and has no damn plan. He just thinks she would stay here with us, and sleep in a living room. During MONTHS, maybe even longer, God knows... He told me if I don’t like it, I can leave. Wtf?! And who would take his mom to the hospital every time she has an appointment?! She doesn’t even speak the language of the country we live in! Who would pay for all the expenses while she’s with us? Us, of course!!!

So I’m thinking... HELLOOO?!? We will soon have 2 children, and we don’t even have enough space for ourselves! I understand wanting to help your own mother, but we are really really NOT in a situation to be able to do so! I am heavily stressed, still grieving my Mother’s death, and I think it’s unfair that I have to spend my last days of pregnancy stressed like this!!! 😞😣 I don’t even talk to my husband since last night’s argument about all this... And if I need to, I will go to the hospital to give birth by myself. I don’t even care at this point.

I would just like to know if you ladies agree with me, and how can I cope with this situation? I was literally shaking yesterday, because of all the stress... I’m very disappointed in my husband...