Any women with ADHD?

I’m 26 and I have 2 kids and I feel like my brain is mush at this point. I had a lot of symptoms back when I was 8-14 years old but I never got diagnosed and I guess it just kind of got easier to mask. Anyways, I got diagnosed with depression and anxiety at 14 and I just now got medicine within the last year. I tried therapy as well and it was not for me. The reason I think I may have it is because I cannot remember certain things, I miss deadlines, I misplace my keys, my phone, my wallet, even my military ID. I can never seem to remember it or where I put it after I go through the gate to get on base. My husband gets so angry with me bc I fail at small tasks like this. But when I’m in the moment, I just put it away and I can’t remember doing so. I always feel like I’m on autopilot or im a passenger in my own life. Someone else is driving this car and I’m just along for the ride. It’s the only way I can explain it. Little tasks overwhelm me. I also can’t seem to bring myself to want to do anything much less stick to a routine. I joined a gym and I made excuses constantly to not go. I make a meal plan, I can’t even stick to it after the first day. Even when I was pregnant I didn’t take vitamins bc I just simply couldn’t keep up with it. Life feels so hard for me. I feel like I look at others and I’m way different from them. I can remember feeling this way since I was young. Also another issue is if there is a lot of background noise I can’t seem to focus and hear what people are saying directly to me. I feel like im going deaf but my hearing is just fine. I feel like I’m going crazy. Can someone please tell me if you have ADHD and this is what it feels Like? I plan to see a doctor but I have a few days until then.