Feeling unwanted by husband

Just wondering how to get over some issues with my husband.

He’s never had a ‘high’ sex drive but we still used to have sex once or twice a week. Since we’ve had children m we maybe have sex like once a month at most, the longest we went without was 6 months! If I initiate he usually isn’t interested so it puts me off trying again, then I build up the courage to initiate again only to be left feeling unwanted and upset.

Sometimes when he is feeling like it, he just wants me to pleasure him and doesn’t seem to want sexual intercourse itself unless I initiate. Sometimes he won’t even touch me at all. When we do have sex it feels so good, I orgasm, so frustrating we can’t do it more. We don’t kiss during sex at all. He doesn’t show me affection at other times either. Like he doesn’t sit next to me, hold my hand, hug me or anything.

It feels like we are just two people that live in the same house. I’ve spoken to him about how I feel so many times and he always makes excuses or promises he’ll make more effort, but it never changes.

I don’t know what to do any more or how to accept this is just how it will always be.