New baby life balance

lindsey

Hi mommas!

I’ll try to make this quick. My hubby works full time. I’m a full time student and a SAHM. My husband and I are having issues with time management and parenting together. I don’t feel like we are working well as a team- my husband feels upset and offended by me saying that. I feel this way because I am always the one giving baths, if I have somewhere to go or something to do, baby comes with me. My son is also beast fed (which is my choice, and I won’t give that up). I am with baby usually 20-22 hours out of 24. That’s fine, I’m a stay at home mom. But I guess I didn’t realize how hard it is to clean, and do homework, and take a freakin shower while at home with a newborn. Not to mention I get zero alone time and I rarely get to workout. I kept giving my husband nights off, he would come home and relax in baths, he would watch baby for a couple of hours alone on some weekends but neglected to do chores or run his errands while with baby; so basically I would wake up from my nap to care for my son, catch up on house work, and my husband would leave to “get stuff done”. Basically I feel like I consider his needs and baby’s and no one is considering mine. We are military with no family anywhere close- so we have no help. After many arguments and hurt feelings, we finally agreed my husband would take evenings. That’s what we are trying now.. 🤷🏻‍♀️Is this normal? Do all couples struggle with this balance when they have a newborn? For reference, my son is 11 weeks