Just found out he has been cheating on me should he be in the room While i give birth?

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I found out he has been cheating nothing physical for what im told but just text i guess nudes have been exchanged im devastated as im due march 1 with my second Child. Please no rude comments im already a mess...

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For me i would let him come but AFTER i have the baby....bc that’s gonna be on my mind and I’m trying to have a STRESS FREE delivery

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OK so from experience, I allowed the dad in with me still after he cheated and left me 3 days before our babies 1st birthday and 1month before our second was born. I regretted it. I would never ever allow someone in a room with me who has no respect or care for me in the most intimate and vulnerable time of giving birth ever again. Yes he is the dad but why should you care about something he clearly didn't value enough to protect. Have him in after, and allow whatever you feel comfortable with. Be kind to yourself ❤ there is no right or wrong decision to make. That was already done by him, the rest that follows is you surviving!!

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Honestly I would still allow him, now hear me out ! Because despite his differences with you and whatever happened he is still the father to your baby & your relationship with him , is not his relationship with y’all’s baby. But this is just IMO.. after the birth I would drop his ass.

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Idk studies shows women who are stressed or have a trigger in the room with them have longer hard labors. 
I don’t think I could because I would need him so much and I know that would mess with my head and make it all so much worse.

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After labor and delivery. He doesn’t need to see you north the baby to have a relationship with the child. You need loving support during that time.

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I think this comes down to a few things:
1. Are you planning on staying with him?
2. Do you still want him to be part of the baby’s life?
3. Will having him around during birth affect your mood?
4. Will him being there make you feel safe and supported?
If you still want him in your/the baby’s life then I wouldn’t tell him no just to like be petty or get back at him. 
BUT it’s also really important to have a birth partner who you trust and makes you feel safe, so if him being there is going to make you feel worse or stressed or upset. I would say absolutely not. It’s going to be hard enough as it is. If you have a family member or friend that would be able to support you better and help you feel calm and safe, then you should seriously consider them over him.

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It depends if u think he will still be a good support to u or not. If he will and u won’t be stressed with him being there then have him there. If he won’t be a good support, then have someone there who will. It’s ur labour and u need to be able to stay calm and feel comfortable

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In my opinion, I wouldn’t. You need SUPPORT, you are the one going through this huge life changing event and a lot of complications could happen, you need someone you can trust and love to be there for you in your most vulnerable time. I assume you also can only have one support person because of Covid, so that’d definitely be a no for me. I wouldn’t want someone who just betrayed and broke my trust, my relationship, and my family to be that person.

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First of all sorry about that losers!! He’s obviously a selfish heap of crap doing that to you when you need him the most.It depends on how you feel about it,remember tho what ever you decide,decide because it’s best for you and little one not because it’s “only fair on him” he wasn’t thinking fair to you .. ❤️ (sorry for the rant and man hate my pregnancy has made me a bit like that and it’s weird as am having a boy😅)

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I don’t think anyone is guaranteed the role of birth partner. It’s all about who is going to make you feel most supported and comfortable and has taken the time to learn about what happens in L&D and your Birth Plan. 
If this texting relationship makes you think he’s not that person anymore, then figure out who else should be there to support you. 
I disagree with the comments that say your decisions should be based on if you plan to  stay with him or not. Focus on your health, wellbeing and baby for now and decide that after baby arrives.

Just found out he has been cheating on me should he be in the room While i give birth?

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