I have never had an actual orgasm. I’m 20.

I’ve been trying to achieve it for years and I’ve tried almost everything (except sex toys, never tried those)

I can sometimes have what I call a “mini orgasm” it’s like a small release after I’m very turned on and build it up and it lasts for less than a second.. but never an actual orgasm. I’ve explored my body and I know where it feels good and where it doesn’t but I can never get further on my own.

I lost my virginity 3 months ago and I’ve been trying to have sex with my boyfriend too and I can never have an orgasm with him either.. it’s really frustrating.. and I know it bothers him too that he can’t make me cum.. we’ve tried different positions and he has tried fingering me and giving me oral and everything he can.. he is always listening to me and I’m trying to guide him to touch me and do certain things but nothing works.. I’ve tried to just relax and focus on what’s going on..

I feel very good while we are having sex and I enjoy it most of the time.. sometimes when we have sex I feel like maybe.. maybe if it would last longer maybe I could do it.. but my boyfriend can’t last that long it takes me a very long time to even get close to that “mini orgasm” so I’m never sure if it could’ve happened or no.

I think he doesn’t do bad actually in terms of lasting, usually we have sex for around 10-20min and I know many guys can’t even last that long so I’m lucky for that.. it’s just that it’s never enough for me..

I really want to experience sex to the fullest with him and I really wish I could cum when we have sex.. I’m just starting to lose hope if it will ever happen naturally..