Has going through a divorce or breakup change the way you are with people?

Question

I’m going through a divorce and I’ve been distant my from family because of it. Tbh I’ve been miserable and I don’t want to fake the funk or rub anyone the wrong way. My fav family member texted me a few times asking me when I was going to stop being distant. I honestly don’t have an answer. They know what’s going on with me. I feel like I’m offending them and I’m going to burn bridges with my own family because I’m so to myself. Im 23, a single mom and I’m trying to get my life back on track, not to mention my 2 year may be autistic so I’m also trying to get that figured out. It’s a lot. I don’t know if I’m going about things the wrong way. I just know that I feel like I need space.

Answer

I would ask your family to be patient with you as you are navigating a difficult time and the best way they can support you is by allowing you a little bit of space ￼at the moment. Let them know you love them, it’s not anything they did, you are just overwhelmed ￼and you’re trying to get yourself back on track and feeling better and doing better. And thank them for their support.￼

Answer

Sounds like you have a LOT going on right now. It’s totally normal to pull away. 
When I went through my divorce, I definitely pulled away from everyone because I don’t like to overshare or feel like I’m imposing. Not to mention, I was dealing with a lot of big emotions and couldn’t even verbalize them. 
It’s nice that your family is reaching out, but you should be honest with them. “Thanks for checking in. I’m really going through a lot right now and I’m trying to sort it all out. I know I’ve been distant, and don’t have an answer for when I’ll be more ‘normal’ but I appreciate your thoughts. I’ll reach out when I’m feeling more put together.”
Family can worry but it’s because they care. If you feel comfortable confiding in them, that’s great. But it’s entirely up to IF and WHEN you feel ready to share. 
Sending so much love and comfort your way. It gets better eventually ♥️♥️♥️

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I was 24 when I went through my divorce, no kids. But I was distant as well. But I didn’t burn bridges, I think it’s impossible with family. They knew the hard time I was having and just let me do what I needed on my terms. As long as you stay “open” with just needing time in think they’ll understand. Its hard process  so I feel for you! When I went through mine he asked for a divorce december 23rd. We had just bought a new house so all of my gifts from my family were for a house and it was miserable. My poor mom went out Christmas Eve just to get me a few gifts that weren’t. My anniversary was also New Year’s Eve so that entire day I didn’t move from the couch or speak to anyone and my dad said “I’ll give you today but tomorrow you’re eating and talking.” Also remember people who are pushing you to not be distant care about you.

Has going through a divorce or breakup change the way you are with people?

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