The man I’m supposed to be marrying doesn’t compliment me much. My love languages are words of affirmation and physical touch. We’ve gone over the whole love language thing so many times. It can be downright painful for me to hear him compliment others! I crave deep down inside to hear him say anything nice or sweet to me.

I’ve felt like maybe all the childhood trauma and lack of love & affection in childhood messed me up, but the more I see & compare to others, my soon to be husband doesn’t make me feel valued in any way. He doesn’t do nice things for me, doesn’t speak kind words to me. But yet he expects everything from me & I give everything just to try to feel loved and appreciated. Is this a red flag or will marriage counseling help in the future? And yes, I’ve brought it up to him multiple times over the years but things don’t change or he gets mad at me.