How did you help your partner feel connected to your pregnancy?

Question

My husband told me he doesn’t feel connected to my pregnancy. He honestly hasn’t even tried much to connect. If the baby is kicking and I have him look/feel, he looks for maybe 20 seconds then goes away. He apologized to me because I was visibly getting mad, and I was like, “no, I’m sorry that you’re missing out on it. It’s so cool.” He got offended but it’s the truth 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️
Is this an average male response to pregnancy?? Lack of connection/involvement? I don’t get it.

Answer

Very normal for a first pregnancy. My husband didn’t really connect until after she was born. Second time, he was more involved

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Not for my husband but everyone is different. Some mothers don’t even feel connected until after birth again not me but everyone is different. Just let him experience it how he feels comfortable and don’t shame him for not being as into it as you are. You could ask him to talk to your belly. Have you picked out a name? That could help too.

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My husband was like that for both of my pregnancy. Even when our kids were newborns. I think he feels uncomfortable with babies in general. My son is now 2 and he adores him. I would say it started around 4 months. Does it make me sad that he sometimes doesn’t seem to care about our newborn, yes. But I know it will come with time.

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Im sorry to hear that, sweetie. Was having a baby a consensual agreement? I’m only asking because some men can feel “pressured” into having a baby, but they have never wanted it. Thus, after wife gets pregnant. They feel that their job is done. 
But no, I don’t think men in general are disconnected to their partner’s pregnancy. I think my partner is more connected to my pregnancy than I am. I’m only 6 weeks along but he’ll speak to my belly once a while. Check on me when we are apart etc. 
That being said, maybe you may want to have a chat with him about how you feel? Instead of snide remarks.

How did you help your partner feel connected to your pregnancy?

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