I’ll try to keep this as simple as possible. I’m due mid May. My SIL wants to throw us a shower beginning of April. The idea was to have it outside (which is tricky enough in NJ because the weather in March and April is all over the place) and my original guest list was about 20 to 25 people, socially distancing and wearing masks, just the women from our families and close friends. I wanted to keep it as small as possible.

Well...my SIL seems to be making it a lot more than what I’m comfortable with. She has the best intentions and I don’t want to appear ungrateful but the guest list now suddenly includes everyone’s kids (that’s about 15 additional people right there) and the guest list has grown because she invited extra people 😬. She’s also planning all kinds of games and favors and the whole thing is just becoming a lot larger than I’m comfortable with.

We had a very tiny wedding because I don’t really like being the center of attention like that as it is and I almost didn’t want a shower at all. Plus I’m also more and more nervous about Covid so I’m thinking a zoom or drive by shower or combo of them is best for this. I’ve also discussed it with a few family members and a lot of them aren’t comfortable coming to a live shower anyway even if it’s outside...especially with 15 kids running around 😬😬😬.

I guess Im just looking for a way to tell her that while I appreciate all her efforts I’d just feel more comfortable doing this on zoom and keeping it as simple as possible without all the bells and whistles...any advice on how to approach this is greatly appreciated!