My toddler driving me nuts

Long post. Sorry I need to vent this out.

My daughter is 17 months old. She never move away from me, not even for second. Even for bathroom breaks either she come in or she cries that I should pick her. I couldn't even take a shower on a daily basis.

I need to keep her in my hip to cook and should wash dishes when she is asleep at night.

She is been away from her dad for so long and it took 2 months to finally go to him.

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She is poor sleeper than the babies I have ever seen. She takes 1 nap in the morning for less than an hour only if I lay next to her for atleast 2 hours.

For the whole duration until she finally sleeps she jumps on me, use her hands to poke my face, eyes and nose. She just jump and have hit my nose several times that I could smell blood in nose though I didn't bleed.

Have got several head hits, ribs hit , you name it..

If she need to sleep at night I must make sure there is 7 hours gap before her 1 st nap.

Night this whole routine continues. I should lay next to her and if her nails are not cut then my whole face ears would burn from her nail marks.

A small sound would reset her back that I need to make her sleep again. Cos of this I wouldn't even stop her from scratching my face or pinches.

My hubby wishes to help me but she just wouldn't go to him. There are nights where I try for several hours and I give up. This is one of the night where hubby tried to make her sleep but she cried her eyes out and it took 6 hours to finally sleep and this is after I comforted her and she as usual started to hold or pinch my ears and face.

No matter how late she sleeps she is up at 6 and starts her routine like jumping on me, poking me.

She would ask she needs milk and stand by door and knock.

She is so happy to be awake and show sign good morning to her dad and then clinginess starts.

She will be fussy if she skips her first nap.

She just need 20 min nap to be fresh for the rest of the day.

She scares for everything new

She doesn't easily go to anyone but wave her hand or stare at strangers and nods her head sometimes.

She loves music

She is like robot when we ask her something. The moment a word is mentioned she would do that. Ex if I say water she go and take sippy cup. She differentiates between fruits.

She immitates us and love pulling my hair during her nap time

When playing with other kids she would give her toys to others.

I'm so frustrated I couldn't do anything. She doesn't let me eat unless I make her sit on my lap. I'm so tired of taking care of her and vexed. This sleeplessness is from her birth until now. She hates sleep even as a new born baby .

Has anyone experienced this before ?

Pls share your thoughts. I'm exhausted 😭

Ps: I have already played her cartoons and she sits on my lap to watch it and I shouldn't move away. She dances by standing in my laps.

She is particular on which song I should even play

Once I played a sad love song and she started crying. She listens to only particular fast or happy songs.

She goes mad for sleepy songs like relaxing music or white noise etc

Thank you all for your valuable comments. It was such a long post and you guys took time to reply me. Thanks much.

I'm considering sending her to daycare.

I have already played sleepy music, bamboo fountain, white noise. Nothing seems to work for her. A cough or sneeze or door open sound or hiccup is enough to wake her up if it is morning nap or if I'm trying to make her sleep

I'm trying to stop her from poking me but she is getting so mad anyway I'm still trying.

Hoping it will all settle well