My husband has double accounts, pictures, and messages saved on to his email. Also found out lies he has told me from the beginning of our relationship...
I want to say I am not a believer in divorce normally but I am considering all of my options at this point because I seriously do not know what to do.
My husband and I have only been married for a little under a year. However, when we first got married things were extremely weird. Like him changing passwords on computers, and for ids or logins, etc some stories or things he would say started to not adding up. At the beginning of our marriage I started having bad gut feelings after I found out about a few lies he told me in regards to previously dating history, family history, his work, and how he pushed me to do things I wasn't 100 percent okay with with with doing. He got caught in a lie recently about trading with some women early on in our relationship when he said he was with a cousin. When I asked the cookie to make small talk if he liked visiting said place he has never been there?! Seriously he embarrassed me in front of his whole family making me try to make me feel like my memory was not correct...
Long story short I moved far away from my family, friends, and a great job for him! So I was digging because some things he has said/ and did just DOES NOT ADD UP. I know many of you will bash me for snooping but seriously if you moved your whole life for a husband who you found was telling you weird lies wouldn't you want to see what's up?
When I was in college I tried to find someone to help me study language who was a native speaker. I was studying to be an English teacher for non-native speakers and wanted to have a second language to set me apart to get a good job. Little did I know he would become my husband. When I met my husband at the time he was tutoring part-time, we became very close and from there I definitely fell for him and we dated partly long distances and then partly not. Anyways from looking at his email, I saw he used 'tutoring' to try to find his cookie-cutter foreigner girl... emails saying how he wanted to make a long-term relationship/ marry someone with foreign women because he wanted any women who wouldn't have unrealistic standards..? Like I'm talking 15 would email to women from different counties trying to get someone to start dating.
I also found all of his saved message conversations from his exs, pictures, videos including sexual ones. Also, an email buying a cloud account for locking files and folders on to it. So I feel very much used and honestly kind of scared. Like a whole hidden side of him was revealed in just his email alone. I mean seriously some of the things he was saying made me question if he wanted to marry me because he loves me or because I am just am ideal fit that he wanted. I am heart broke over many things, lonely, and a little regretful.
What would you do if your husband had this stuff in his email from the past? Would you feel like he married you with alternative motives?
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