Husband turns everthing around on me

My husband is an alcoholic and lies quite frequently about dumb things and hides things from me. We’ve really been struggling in our marriage. Every-time we start arguing over those issues he starts complaining about dumb things I do.. IE: left a load of laundry in the dryer and didn’t fold it. How does that compare to him being obliterated and lying about his where abouts after promising he wouldn’t drink that day? It’s much much much more than that but I’m getting so sick of it. Just venting 😞