Wrong for feeling this way asking for help?
I’m 9 weeks PP. Since week 2 I have slept in the spare bedroom with my daughter so my husband could get his sleep M-F since I’m on maternity leave and he is working. He works at a desk, but for his dads company and has a lot of stress figuring out finances and company issues. I figured in on leave FOR this reason, so one of us should get sleep.
When my husband is home he will help out but I have to ask him to a lot. We had a talk a few weeks ago how I felt like any time I asked him to do something he was mad about it or irritated that I asked but he said he isn’t but he is stressed at work then coming home and helping is more stressful.
Ok- whatever. Last night our daughter woke up at 10 and I asked him to handle it since I was just about to pump. Then I was done and he was still rocking her and I asked if I could lay down (I have been exhausted and the past few nights were rough) and he said ok. Then this morning at 3 I text him saying I needed him to take over when he woke up (5 or 6) so I could attempt to sleep for 1-2 hours since I was up from 1:30-3:50 with LO. He leaves at 7 for work so I would have to get up then anyway. He came out at 5 so I went into our bedroom to sleep. When I got up at 7 he seemed grumpy and mad and I feel like it’s because I asked him last night and this morning to sacrifice some of his sleep so I could.
I know it’s his baby too and I shouldn’t feel bad but I always do when I ask him for help. I feel like he gets annoyed with me too. This weekend he actually helped me out a lot with laundry so Idk I feel like he probably thinks he is doing everything which is far from the truth. I hate that I feel bad saying when I need help. My sleep is just as important and I’m lucky to get 6 hours a night in segments. He still got 6 hours uninterrupted but usually gets 7-8 if I don’t ask for help. Why do I feel this way? Should I feel bad for this? Idk😞
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