Venting.

I have something to vent. I want to start off by saying I am not a know it all. I am not claiming to be right and the other party wrong. I am aware that people have the rights to their opinions and feelings and it doesn’t make them wrong/right or bad people.

I love dogs. And cats. And every animal. Any time I have ever had a pet, I looked at it as family and nothing less. As most people should. Never ignore or forget the fact that regardless of our loving affection towards them, and there loving response to us, they are still animals. Had we not made keeping them as pets normal, they’d be living just like every other animal in the wild and life would go on. It irritates me that women (and men) consider themselves as parents because they have a fur baby. I’ll never correct them, because as I said, it’s just an opinion of mine. As well as I’m sure most of these “fur parents” may only use this title cause they can’t have kids of their own? Which in that case is very understandable. However using the comparison of “it’s just like having a baby” infuriates me. Yes you take them out/change the litter box. Yes you feed them. Yes you take them to vet appointments. Yes you have an unexplainable love for them. But do you attach the pet to your breast for food? No, you took the pet from its mother who’s responsible for that and then called yourself mommy. Do you change there diaper? No, you take it outside without spending a dime on diapers and wipes and rash creams for the occasional diaper rash. Do you need to be with this pet 24-7 until it becomes of age to be left alone for more than a few hours? No, so long as it has food and water and a cage, it can be left alone for a few hours at a time, maybe even long enough to do a short work shift..as of a baby needs to be with an adult at all times.while yes you take the pet to a vet, a HUGE majority of what happens at the vet is of human choice and preference not because the animal actually needs it. Remember, in the wild, they live every day without a vet. However children require more frequent, all the time doctor visits. Do you send your pet to school? Teach them their ABC’s? Buy them clothes that aren’t just for dress up but because the weather outside is too cold for them to survive? Do you save every day for them to go to college? Do you wipe their tears away when they had a rough day? When someone bullied them? Are you preparing yourself for the day they move out and you no longer get to see them grow every day or lose the need of mommy and daddy?

Having a pet is something society forced into a normal thing, forced these types of animals to become house trained and incapable of living on their own like they usually would and then call themselves “mothers” on Mother’s Day because their doing what they SHOULD for these animals considering they ripped them from their actual mothers and natural life. I’m not trying to sound too harsh, but don’t you dare use taking them outside to the bathroom and vet visits as your justified reason to take the credit us mothers kill ourselves over. You had to take your puppy out a few times last night? I’m not going to applaud a fish for swimming.

Again, I will never say this to them because regardless of how much it angers me, I am not God and cannot decide the right of motherhood to anyone. And if it makes them happy, it’s not causing any damage to my life so why start the battle?

But I feel like today’s society you cannot correct anyone’s claims or behaviors without being attacked and told “your shaming me” or “you’re discriminating me” or “how would you know? Are you a doctor?”...no matter how much you know for a fact someone is either wrong, falsely labeling or faking or not giving correct information, you will never be allowed to say something or correct them or else YOURE the ass hole.

For example: I suffer from severe panic attack disorder and anxiety. Now, I am not a doctor so I will never dare tell someone they don’t have anxiety or panic attacks. But, I feel like having anxiety has become such a social trend that it’s become numb and not taken seriously. I’ve met some people who will say they have anxiety but only explain situations that would cause anyone to have anxious feelings. You can feel anxious, nervous, shy and scared without actually having anxiety disorder. You can even panic and freak out that may cause your blood pressure to rise and shake without you having actual panic attack disorder. I’ve met people who will claim to be having anxiety in the moment but laughing about it, acting completely normal. What it really was, was that they didn’t like the situation they were put in and didn’t feel like doing it and some how said it was their anxiety keeping them from doing it. But God forbid you correct them and tell them it isn’t anxiety, then it’s “HOW DARE YOU BLAH BLAH BLAH”.

Idk..sorry if I offended anyone out there. It’s not my intention. And if you are a fur mom/dad, I am not going to tell you to stop embracing your “fur baby”. Like I said, it infuriates me, but my world is still turning. I won’t stop anyone’s happiness over my dumb irritation.