I want to end my relationship possibly?

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So my fiancé and I have been together for 3 years, we have a 16 month old daughter, we rent a home together, and we’re getting married in March. The only thing is that I don’t know what I want anymore.. What sucks is he’s a good guy and a good father. He’s good to me doesn’t cheat let’s me go do whatever whenever. But the things I used to love about him and find cute I find super annoying. Do I love him still yes so much. I just don’t know if I’m in love with him anymore. We fight a lot all the time. We say mean things to each other. I’m not entirely happy and I know he’s not. I don’t want our daughter to grow up the way I did. Back and forth between parents houses. I’m also terrified of being a single mom.. being a mom now is hard and I don’t know if I can handle it alone. I’m really scared of hurting him because I do love him so much but I don’t know if I want him anymore. I’m scared that if I leave him I’m going to regret it and it’ll be ruined.

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I would suggest exercising all your options before ending it, you are a family... you have children. Try some counselling and if it still doesn’t work then at least you know you tried. Good luck!

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You can break it off, take a break or do counseling. I know a lot changed after I had my daughter.  Especially in the first year. I now look back and see a lot of it as hormones. We would fight and see things differently.  Eventually we learned how to work through it and become stronger.  Kids can change the relationship, but if you really love him, sometimes a conversation is really needed and also couples counseling.  Not saying it will work, but it is worth a try.  If doesnt work, then you separate.  I just know my hormones change the way I thought and what I did, but i also lost my father 6 months after giving birth, so that didnt not help.  Best of luck, but i would figure it out before you marry.

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Never settle for what doesn’t make you happy! It’ll be the biggest regret.♥️

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I think you just need to get that spark back between you. Why don’t you take some space apart to try to miss each other. 
Or can you go on a nice date or a short vacation and have someone babysit your baby ? 
I think you both need to put some effort into the relationship.

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Maybe fight a little before ending it? He sounds like a good guy and you sound like you love him. Love is a choice, not just a feeling. Some seasons are good, some seasons are not great.
I would highly suggest counseling. You just had a huge life change.. Having a baby isn't just some little thing. It is life.... Changing!
I wish you all the best. 🤞

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Don’t waste anymore of your time or his. Do not stay in a place where you are not happy. It’s also not fair to your kids to constantly see or hear y’all arguing... don’t stay for them it’s only gonna make it worse for them later down the line. You can do-parent perfectly even while separated love. Hope all works out

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I've heard that the things that originally attract you to a person eventually become the things that irritate you. It's true...I liked my hubby for his sense of humour and now he annoys me with it. The key is commitment through the hard times. Supposedly if you stay, in five years you will be happier than you were before. But if there are irreconcilable differences or abuse, that's where I say run.

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Could it possibly be hormones? Have you guys lost your spark and just need to reignite it? Sometimes after becoming parents , we tend to forget to still be passionate companions. We see each other as mother and father not lovers. I would try and seriously try resparking something and give it a shot before calling it quits. But that’s me personally, if you feel it’s time to call it quits then do so. Ultimately it’s your relationship . Good luck

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Don’t be so quick to walk away unless you are 100% sure. Having children changes the dynamic of a relationship for sure. But learnt to balance is key.

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You will never regret listening to your gut. Break it off bc if you feel this way now it will get worse. I promise! You only get one life - spend it with someone you can’t live without, nor someone your capable of tolerating living with.

I want to end my relationship possibly?

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