Tired of this

I’m so tired of my mother, whenever I try to discipline my children the best way I see fit she’s always going against what I’m saying and telling my kids to do the opposite of what I’m telling them and that pisses me off. She’s not the best mother so I’m not taking any advice from her I’m going to do what I see fit. I’m so tired of her!!! Then the times I don’t say anything to my children she tells me “ get control of your kids”. So which one is it ?!! 😑😑😑