Y’all.. how do you talk to your partners?

Question

So we had our baby 18 months ago but our sex life never readjusted, I guess I could say. I miss being handled. Like handledddd. Like hair pulling, against the wall type do this because I said so type things. But everything is so vanilla right now. It’s like going through the motions. Tell me how you talk to your partners. I feel insecure and even a little ashamed. I don’t know why, I just do. Maybe a little shy? I’m not a shy person. I guess I’m trying to figure out how to start the conversation. I don’t want him to feel like he’s under performing or that I’m attacking him. Any tips? Anything that’s worked for y’all?

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Text him in the morning that you want him to fuck you hard against a wall tonight. Let him think about it all day. 
He had to be gentle with you when you were pregnant and soon after birth. He might not know you are ready and wanting the rough stuff

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When your in bed having sex say pull my hair lol. Its hot when woman take control! And if thats the sex u use to have hell probably like getting right back to it. Pregnancy is hard on a sex life and then after u have to be more gentle. He might think your dont want to be kinky (a lot of people think once their moms they need to chill out alittle lol) so i would just direct him in bed to how you want it

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Maybe try to start by asking why he might’ve changed his demeanor in the bedroom. Maybe he doesn’t know you still want that, maybe he doesn’t realize you still want that, or maybe he’s just in a different headspace being a dad and doesn’t realize he isn’t doing that anymore. Plus if you ask in that way you don’t have to get the words detailing what you mean out of your mouth, might be a little less intimidating if a convo.

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For my husband I just tell him as bluntly as I’m known to be to “fuck me” once I say that he knows exactly what I’m talking about. He knows exactly what I want. 
Definitely be vocal

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Just tell him what you want. If I’m uncomfortable with a topic sometimes it’s easier for me to write it down so I can fully think through my wording and what I’m saying (not that sex is uncomfortable to talk about, but I never want to offend him and it can be a sensitive topic).

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Just tell him what you would like him to do to you. It's doesn't have to be weird or awkward. Yall had a baby, you should be past that stage.

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I just tell my husband what I want or want him to do and he does it. No sense of beating around the bush when it comes to this, we have done it plenty before so why be shy now!

Y’all.. how do you talk to your partners?

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