Worried about my 15 year old SIL?

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My mother in law is making my 15 year old sister in law go on a 1000 calorie diet. (!!!)
My SIL is around 5”5 and 165lbs, so she is on the bigger side, but I am SO concerned with how they are handling her weight. Anything she eats is scrutinized, they called her “cow” for eating bread at breakfast and they always joke at her expense about her weight in front of everyone .. (“she can’t see food and not eat it” “she always has something in her mouth” etc) she always laughs it off but she is so young and I cannot imagine how damaging this can be for her health. Mentally and physically. 
I have been with her brother for 3 years and married for 1 and I’m just not sure if I really have a place/say to step in and say something (gently) that maybe they are being too harsh. I do agree that she should maybe go to a nutritionist to learn more about calories/healthy options/working out etc and she should change her lifestyle and make healthier eating choices and go for a brisk walk, etc, but a 1000 calorie diet seems so extreme!!! 
I need advice, I’ve been watching this happen silently for so long and I’m really considering intervening. 
What do y’all think?

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165 is legit not that big. I’m an inch taller and weighed as much all throughout high school. That girl is fine! 
I hope she doesn’t stick to this bullshit diet while she is away from the house

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Yes you should say something politely. It will most likely cause issues but with the way they are treating her she can end up with an eating disorder! I am 5 ft 4 inch and I felt and looked my best around 165. It’s not all about the number on the scale.

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I’m literally 10 lbs smaller and a month ago I was 165 and I’m an inch shorter I didn’t even look chunky. That’s tripping. She’s not big

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If they call her a cow then there is a high chance she could get an eating disorder in my opinion. I don't know if it's your place to say though but I also don't think that's okay.

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I’m 5’2 and I’ve weighed that much before  and I still didn’t look big?! If you don’t say anything to the family at least talk to SIL in private maybe take her out for lunch or something and let her know that she is ok how she is, let her know you’re there for her

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It’s absolutely your place. 1,000 calories is dangerous. She needs to eat. 1600 would be a better goal for her to lose weight at a healthy pace IF she doesn’t exercise much. If she is active, she needs to be eating even more.

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I would say something. Personally I wouldn’t be so nice. She’s not even big? 10 pounds overweight is nothing to worry about. I went though this in middle school when I was only 5 pounds overweight and it felt like shit. Her parents and their comments have a big chance of causing an ED.

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Dudeeee. Homegirl is tall and her weight sounds perfect for her height. I would speak up bc her family is mentally tearing her apart. She will have a complex when she doesn’t even need to have one!!

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165 isn't that big. I'm 5'5 and I've been at that weight for a couple of years now. Poor thing. My mom was like this. 'if your tummy went over while you sit your fat' as she would say. I personally would say something, but then again I don't want them to turn the hate towards you. Poor girl

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Agreed, 165 isn't that big at all, especially for her height. And yes, you DO need to say something. 1000k calories isn't enough to sustain proper growth nor nutrition. 
Talk to her, voice your concerns, and definitely put your man in his place. It's one thing to joke with her but they're setting her up to suffer from severe body dysmorphia. Not cool. Those assholes should be ashamed of themselves.

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