Does this make me a bad mom already?

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So I’ve been struggling with how I want to feed my LO. I know I want to breastfeed and I feel like whenever you breastfeed it’s assumed you’ll pump as well. Is it wrong that I don’t want to pump? 
My husband and I were discussing this earlier and considered a combination of breastfeeding and formula feeding from day one. However I feel like I’m going to be judged the second I say that to medical staff. This is our first baby, we’re stationed overseas, far from family and friends, so I just don’t want the hassle of trying to push myself to produce enough for her while doing basically everything on my own while he works. Obviously he’ll help when home and I feel like the option of mixing up a bottle would be way easier. I’m also thinking it would make things much easier for when we can finally go home to visit family who can’t come here to meet her.

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Girl I’ll be so honest when my daughter was born I was so miserable because they were pressuring me to breast-feed and for some reason it just was not for me I think I’ve had to ask for formula for like the first 12 hours and they still would not give it to me luckily when I had a nurse change shift the nurse that I got was even honest enough to say that there is a real thing called breast-feeding Nazis and unfortunately I had them all during that last shift so she end up giving me formula and she was like you know what a fed baby is what’s best and here I am pregnant again and now I know that I’m not gonna let anyone try to force me out of decision I want to make￼

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It does not make you a bad mom!  At the end of the day a fed baby is a happy baby and that’s all that matters.  I will say that pumping does help to get your supply started and later maintained but it’s definitely not the most joyous part of motherhood.  Do whatever you feel is best for you and ignore whatever the haters may say

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My first 2 where formula fed my 3rd was ebf my soon to be 4th will be formula fed 🤷🏽‍♀️ I will say it's tricky to bf and formula feed because brestmilk is all about supply and demand so if your subbing with formula it'll affect your milk supply I say pick one and go for it it'll be less stress on you plus fed is best so there is no right or wrong

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I breastfed from day 1 and also supplemented from day 1 with formula. My daughter was losing too much weight and he doctor highly recommended it. I wouldn’t feel bad about it at all. I pumped a lot as well but hated it. This time around I will only be pumping when I need to. Unfortunately, it is very hard to breastfeed and supplement without having to pump sometimes for relief and also keeping supply alive.

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No? Why do people think “this makes me a bad mom?” Like no, it doesn’t. Do what you want.

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Definitely not a bad mom. With my first baby, he just would not latch. And if by some miracle he did latch, he would fall asleep. Even the sugar water they gave him to perk him up didn’t work. So eventually I just turned to exclusive pumping and I was miserable. The best thing I ever did was switch to formula and then my little guy started to chunk right up! Formula didn’t bother him whatsoever and my mental health was in a better state. I’ve told my husband that this time around, if the baby doesn’t latch, I’m not pumping and we will go straight to formula. You do whatever works best for you and your family. Fed is best.

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I didn’t pump with my first at all.
With my second the only time I pumped was when he was in the NICU, when he was sick not keeping it down (we did pedialyte for a couple days early in, or when slept super long and I was starting to hurt I would just do it until I felt better.
I don’t plan on having to pump this time around with #3 but it is sometimes nice to have a small stash in case dad wants to feed.  Also sometimes things happen that change our plans (like happened with my 2nd)
It doesn’t make you a bad mom at all!  Regardless of what you do, you are feeding your baby and that is what matters!

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Every medical professional should have the opinion that “fed is best” no matter how you decide to feed your little one. If they don’t they can kick rocks :)

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As long as baby is happy, healthy and growing it’s no ones business how you feed. Some women want to breastfeed and can’t, some women need to work or take care of other little ones and can’t be available to breastfeed for 18 hours a day. You and your partner are the only ones who get to make the choice. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for shame you.

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Breastfeed if you want, pump if you want  formula feed if you want, as long as your baby is fed and well cared for that's all that matters
I breastfed my daughter for 1 week and then decided to exclusively formula fed
This time around I plan to mix feed from the get go, but if I switch her to formula then I switch her to formula, as long as she's fed and happy
My happiness matters too :)
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Does this make me a bad mom already?

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