Just married and having doubts

So before I begin my story I want to point out that him and I are very playful with each other. Sometimes when I’m moody I’ll ask “am I being a bitch? Because I feel I am”. That’s Said when I’m usually a bit cranky and not being my best self which happens. So yesterday we were at my moms house and he was being a little distant with me but was “playing around” this was only for a couple of mins. He gave me a couple dirty looks and I thought he was upset at me because he said I was being annoying (which I was) so I just thought he was really annoyed by me. One thing led to another while blowing up a beach ball and I asked for some help. I took what he said the wrong way and didn’t know he was kidding and he said “stop being a bitch”. I was shocked because I’ve never been told that in a manner that seemed serious although he claimed he was just joking - the body language was not joking. I got upset at him because I don’t like to be spoken to that way. We say “bitch” when it’s clearly in a joking way and certain tone (its really hard to explain). After that we went walking and we talked about our argument and he said I’m literally being “crazy” for being upset and it was an accumulation of these two terms that made me doubt him. In my book, name calling is not acceptable and I made that clear to him. He apologized many times and said he was irrational and didn’t mean it. It’s just sometimes he doesn’t think twice when he talks and it comes off wrong. It really hurts my feels and I let him know that apologies mean nothing if it’s always happening. He even made another comment today saying he was “creeped out” because I had a different look to me today. I wear contacts and he has seen me without them. But he kinda kept rubbing it in my face and it made me feel ugly. In his defense he meant that he felt creeped out because he has never seen my like that. But why use that term and look concerned? Not to be conceited, but I think I’m a very beautiful girl and love myself as I am with contacts or without. I again had another talk (calmly) about how his word choices are hurtful. He brought up my look so many times today and asked me if I was going to order a new pair and then said “good”. I mean... how am I supposed to feel about that? I just wanted to cry because no guy has ever made me feel so ugly. I felt like I looked like a monster which I know I don’t. I won’t lie he has gained a lot of weight and I still love and accept him as he is and guide him in a loving way. I never like to humiliate. I’m just having so many doubts about him and if he’s even the one for me anymore. He has done so much for me and treats me so well and provides for me. But sometimes material things just don’t matter and I just want love and absolute respect more than anything.

Does it seem like I am being nit picky about everything he does or I have the right to be upset and hurt?

I know I’m going to get comments saying “that’s why you need to live together before getting married” blah blah blah. My case was different. Not really looking for criticism just advice.