Single and having sex

So I just got out of a relationship of 2 years. I loss my virginity to that guy (let’s call him T)and so this is my second time having sex. Me and my T broke up about a week ago and I had sex last night with (let’s call him J)and he really took care of me after. Like after ward J made sure I was ok, offered to cook for me and cuddled me till we fell asleep, he didn’t even pick up his phone afterward and just put a movie on and now I’m thinking my after sex life has been all wrong all this time. Like J would fuck me and I would cook for him while he sat on his phone or got on the game then we would chill on our phones. Like I said I did just get out of a relationship so ofc I have no emotional attraction to J but man oh man the whole experience was more intimate then me and T have ever been and the only time me and J have intimate sex even close to that is when we’re high or drunk. Ig I’m just wondering why? Me and J have known each other for 5 years and we’ve been on and off friends and he did tell me he had a crush on me but wow just wow.