Help...

My relationship with my boyfriend is falling apart. We tried marriage counseling and discovered that it makes us fight more so we rather do it alone. Whenever I try to tell him that he hurt me with something he said or did or anything that he did wrong he gets super defensive and we end up fighting about how he’s not the bad guy all the time and how he actually does do somethings right. I really really really would like to prevent this. I’m feeling so alone and emotionally insecure. I already have depression and anxiety and I don’t have an appointment with my counselor until next week. I really really want to reach out to him about a few things he said our last fight in the fight before. He has already apologize but it’s really weighing on me still because he repeats these actions. He acts like a narcissist sometimes but I can’t tell if he really is one? That’s some thing I’m gonna be talking about with my counselor. Anyway, I hope that he can comfort me in the way that I need him to. I just don’t know how to guarantee that the conversation doesn’t end up being about him... starting off with “I love you but... or this is not a reflection of who you are but... or you do things right but.... or I just want you to work on these things... or anything of that nature has not worked” ..