Gender Reveal disappointment??

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Has anyone experienced major denial/disappointment after their gender reveal???  I feel AWFULLLL saying this and feeling this way, especially as I am well-aware of how lucky I am to be pregnant with my second child at 42 and for so-far (knock on wood) all signs are pointing to a healthy baby (which OF COURSE is the most important thing).... but... we recently found out we are having a boy and I literally burst into tears after everyone left the reveal and can’t seem to get any excitement back. I realllllllyyyyy had my heart set on another girl, and it almost didn’t occur to me that it could be a boy because I wanted a girl so badly. I LOVE being a girl mom and everything I’ve experienced with my daughter so far and am having such a hard time with her growing up and thinking that’s the last time I will get to experience all of the things with her. That’s a huge part of why I wanted another baby to be able to experience it all again. Of course deep down I knew a boy was possible too but like I said, I was almost like willing it to be a girl and didn’t think otherwise. Now it almost feels harder to watch any milestones with my girl because it REALLY feels like an “end” now. 
I am sure this all sounds a bit dramatic and ridiculous but I can’t help feeling this way. OF COURSE once he’s here this baby will be extremely loved by all, especially me, and spoiled and have a great life but I just can’t help feeling that disappointment and lack of excitement. And it makes me so sad. AND FEEL SOOOOOO GUILTY and like an awful person!
I know everyone says boys are great and love their moms and it’s a “totally different experience” than girls... but that’s just it. I didn’t WANT a totally different experience! Lol
I’m sure many of you are thinking I am as much of an ahole as I feel like for writing this and feeling this way... so need need to chime in there. BUT if you have experienced something similar I’d love to hear your thoughts. 
Thanks

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I really wanted a boy, I'm having another girl.  My third biologically. I also have a foster abs step daughter.  My only boy was born at 22 weeks and didn't make it. I've wanted a boy so badly.  I intentionally didn't do a gender reveal because I knew I'd feel guilty if I was upset. It's ok to feel that way.  After he's here you will love him just the same. I wanted all my girls to be boys lol now I couldn't imagine not having my girls.

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I had a little gender disappointment at first, but mine went away very quickly.
Your story sounds just like my sister though! She planned on 2 kids only, and had her heart set on 2 girls! Her and I were, and still are best friends, and she really wanted that for her daughter.
She had all the same symptoms as her first pregnancy so she was convinced it was a girl.
When they did a gender reveal she cried as well. She said she cried at least once or twice a day for a good couple weeks when she thought about not being able to give her daughter a sister like she had, and that it’s her last baby.
She eventually felt a little better and started to get excited for a boy, especially seeing how excited her husband was about a boy.
She was still sad from time to time, but not disappointed like before.
Now that he’s 3 months old she loves him so much and says she can’t imagine life without a girl and a boy!
Gender disappointment is real and your feelings are valid!!

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I felt a slight twinge at first when we got our NIPT results back and it said boy. I low key hoped it was wrong and that the anatomy scan would show it was a girl.
But by the time the anatomy scan rolled around and there was a VERY obvious penis, I just laughed and was too excited to be upset over it. Now I’m excited to be a boy mom.
Granted, this is our first, we hope to have one of each but don’t truly care if we never have a girl. I’m the baby of 3 with 2 older brothers and my husband was an only child. I can say that my mom had a stronger bond with my brothers than she had with me, but I had an amazing bond with my dad. I don’t really know what to expect with our son, but I’m excited to find out.

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This is my first baby, and I wanted a boy sooooo bad. But when I look at my child’s father, I knew he only carried girls. He looks like he makes girls. My intuition was right. I was upset when it was a girl, but my feelings about it diminished quickly: I love her so much and I’m so sensitive about her. I love my unborn daughter so much

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I haven’t experienced gender disappointment, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t valid. You have every right to feel a certain way and it doesn’t make you a bad person. 
Maybe you could think of it this way, how you said you didn’t want a different experience... Even if you had been having another girl, even that doesn’t guarantee the same experience. You could’ve just had two girls that were polar opposites. I would just try to remember that baby will be loved regardless and being a boy mom is fun too! Plus, baby boys LOVE their mamas.

Gender Reveal disappointment??

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