Expectations of SIL

Hello ladies,

I need some suggestions regarding my SIL. So my SIL was my best friend before i got married to her brother. We understood each other really well and bonded really well. We were inseparable. Then when i got married her brother, an amazing husband but very demanding in terms of attention and time so i started giving him a lot of time. He had an edge too bc he is my husband 😝

Anyway my SIL would always complain about not giving her much time. Now i have a 2 month old son and I don’t do anyth except cater to his needs bc obviously who else will. Now she is always complaining that i don’t give her enough time and help her out in her stuff and that when she is feeling sad i am not there. I have a son who wants me 24/7, i literally dont have time for my feelings let alone someone else’s. I expect her to understand that. Is it too much to ask for?

Also, when i was going through ppd she didn’t help me at all, everyone else did but not her. Not morally or physically. So i have that in my head too. I don’t want to give her my time bc she wasnt there when i wanted her the most.