Male hygiene

My husband smells really bad all the time. He is a little bit over weight - he eats really well most of the time but hasn’t been able to lose any weight. He doesn’t really exercise.

Even straight after a shower he will have a really pungent smell, especially around his penis. Its hard because he KNOWS that I think he needs to lose weight, anytime I bring it up I feel like I’m lowering his self-esteem and making things worse. I really want him to take better care of himself to look better and smell better. But I feel like I’ve tried everything. We are only in our early 20s and I feel like we should be using this time to set a healthy foundation for the rest of our lives but he doesn’t see the value in it.

It makes it difficult for me to be intimate with him when he looks and smells the way that he does. When we started dating he was much fitter, and thats not all that I value, but I really value taking care of yourself.

How have you all helped your spouse to lose weight/improve hygiene without crushing their self-esteem?