Disobedient and disrespectful 10 year old daughter.

EDIT: putting this at the top so it doesn’t get overlooked. She’s been seeing 2 different therapists. None of them believe she needs to be on any kind of medication. I don’t believe that’s the case either, but I’m not a doctor. I also want to thank everyone for your advice and encouraging words. I’m crying right now typing this and reading the responses. I’ve let my feelings get the best of me because of all of this and I honestly feel like a failure right now.

Therapy hasn’t been working. Taking away electronic privileges hasn’t and still doesn’t work. Spankings never worked. Time-outs never worked (she won’t even just put her nose to the wall for 10-15 minutes), nor will she go to her bedroom and just sit down for a few minutes so we can both cool off and start over.. She doesn’t listen and constantly talks back. She constantly yells and screams when she doesn’t get her way, or she makes terrible faces and stomps around and just pisses everyone else off. It seems we have to walk on eggshells, and we’re just tired of it.

I don’t know what else I can do. She and I have had long discussions about this and everything will be ok for a day or two, but then history repeats itself. I’m not looking for someone to belittle me or tell me my parenting skills suck, I’m looking for some advice on what else I can do. My daughter and I have a good relationship overall, and I love and care for her very deeply, but I don’t like where I’m at in my feelings right now ,and it’s really taking a toll on my mental and physical well-being, as it likely is hers. I feel like she is manipulative and it seems like she likes to get a rise out of me, and that really hurts me. I try to ignore the way she acts, but it only gets worse. It’s affecting our relationship, obviously, and it’s also affecting our family and my relationship as well. I don’t want to feel this way anymore and I just need some advice. Thanks to anyone in advance!