RANTT PART 1

My LO is 3MO and since birth she has always been a sweater. She gets hot so fast and gets fussy after being held for so long just because of that reason. Anyways my MIL will not put my baby down for the life of her and I’ve told her before that my LO doesn’t like being held for long periods at a time and she doesn’t listen. When she starts to get fussy (meaning she wants to be put down) she gets up with her wraps her up EVEN MOREEE in a blanket and my baby is just screaming. She won’t hand her to me and my bf tells her she wants to be put down or that she only wants me. She always tell me my baby is cold and that I need to have her covered up with leggings and socks and always wrapped in a blanket and I get so annoyed. I explain how we have a thermometer that tells us how the baby should be dressed in that temp and it’s usually always on red meaning just a onesie or diaper. And she still says well when you send pictures of her with no blanket or socks I feel so bad for her because she must be cold. We drive 40 minute to their house (they don’t make time to come to us and the couple times they have my MIL just gave advice on how I should change things the entire time). I really care for and appreciate her but I just don’t appreciate how she is towards my parenting. From the beginning she’s always told me “if you need help parenting just ask me” as if I’m not capable of it. I EBF and she makes comments about it and I told her I breastfeed just to lower the chances of gas and how it’s convenient, etc. Anyways she says I should talk to the pediatrician about which formula is good for her even though I specially mentioned I do not want to formula feed. I do have bottles and formula as a JUST IN CASE SOMETHING WERE TO HAPPEN TO ME or I just can’t possibly feed her it’s an emergency only option. Anyways she knows I carry it around in the diaper bag and one day I told her “okay I can take her now because she’s hungry” and she says “really I want to feed her though” and I say “well I guess I can make the bottle in the bag” that was my fault 😞 I thought I guess a bottle wouldn’t hurt and I don’t feel like going back and forth because there was also their family from Mexico there. Anyways after my baby ate she was extremely fussy the rest of the day and she had the nerve to blame me saying it must have been something I ate that’s barely upsetting her stomach. My bf was really annoyed with her so he told her we were going to leave but she really continued holding the baby another 1 1/2 she was walking around the house with her avoiding us even though we packed all our stuff and he even took the diaper bag and some other things to the car. Every time I tell her something like “oh she rolled over or oh she started babbling” she tells me she’s too young and that she doesn’t believe it. My daughter started smiling at my bf when he came home from work at about a month old and she didn’t believe it said she was too young and that it’s not a real smile. I just get so bothered by the constant advice and replies and treatment. I’m not one to keep my baby away I know she loves her but damn I’m so frustrated and it’s like we have to go every weekend for a barbecue just to basically have my baby get upset. My bf does try to tell her but she doesn’t listen and I definitely don’t want to cross any lines and make her feel disrespected. OH I just remembered too I told her I couldn’t wait to make her own little foods (purées) and I mentioned how I wanted to make the carrot for her First and she says I couldn’t because I have to start with green. I know nothing about feeding purées but of course I plan to talk to the pediatrician about it but something simple like that. There’s always a counter argument. I can’t ever genuinely do something. She moved from N to 1 in diapers and she told me I should have just adjusted the netting on the diaper and that she wasn’t ready for the next size even though she was already a month and a half. Uh eventually she needs to move up 😭

Below is the egg thermometer that we have for the house to make sure we aren’t underdressing her.