I need serious opinions here. *TW*

TRIGGER WARNING! Suicide mentioned.

Bear with me, it’s long but I really really need help.

So I have a friend who lives hours away from me now. She has been going through a really rough time. When she lived in the same town as me, her house burnt down. She, her girlfriend, their daughter and their dogs are fine, no one was hurt. But she still lost everything she owns. We worked together but she transferred to a different store. That’s why she moved hours away. She and her girlfriend moved together, their daughter moved in with her dad because she didn’t want to change schools. While they’ve been out of town, her grandpa died and her mom got really sick. They live in a different state so she traveled to visit them. When she came home, her girlfriend had started using again. They argued and broke up (this happens very often). She travels a lot for work, so she had to go to a new store to get it ready for open. While she was gone, her girlfriend (or ex girlfriend) slept with a few guys they work with. And then passed out from drug use and wrecked their car, and then got arrested for possession and a few warrants she already had. Now, my friend is devastated. She has to work with the guys her girlfriend slept with. She figured out there was some overlap before they ever broke up. Her kid will only barely speak to her (she’s having her own struggles right now. She’s 13 yo). All of her friends are hours away. The store she wanted to transfer to won’t take her. She told me last night she wants to kill herself. And if I truly love her then I shouldn’t want her to live this way and feel so broken and unhappy. I told her to please hang on because it won’t hurt forever. But she and this girl have been together 15 years and she’s just so broken. Is she right? Should I love her enough to let her quit? Am I being selfish wanting her to live? I hate that she’s in pain and I can’t take it away. I just don’t know what to do or say. She plans to do it tonight. She won’t answer my calls or texts. I’m just so on edge. Do I give her space? Is she truly going to hurt herself? Do I call the police? I don’t know where she’s staying. She’s still bouncing around hotels because her girlfriend ruined the house they were living in when she was traveling and her gf was using.

I just need someone to tell me it’s okay to be selfish and to fight for her life when she isn’t willing. I can’t imagine a world without her in it. But she made a good point, I do love her and I want her to be happy. I don’t want her to live a life full of pain any longer than she has. But I don’t want her to leave the planet, I just want to help her fix her situation but I don’t know how.